“Has the family been through an upheaval — a move, a separation, a change of shape — and how did they come through it?”

Why this question

Told gently and honestly, the way you'd want them to read it at twenty. Every family has weather. Skip if it's not the right time.

Capturing it in voice

• ·Answer it yourself first, then ask them the same question and keep both. Two voices, one moment.
• ·You don't need quiet. You need now. Record it in the car, on the walk to school, at the foot of the bed.
• ·Record it on an ordinary day — the background noise of your kitchen is part of the keepsake.

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