“Who are their godparents or chosen family — and why did you choose them?”

Why this question

The friends promoted to family. What you hoped they'd bring to your child's life, and what they actually have.

Capturing it in voice

• ·If a sibling wanders in mid-recording, keep going. The interruption is the memory.
• ·Answer it yourself first, then ask them the same question and keep both. Two voices, one moment.
• ·You don't need quiet. You need now. Record it in the car, on the walk to school, at the foot of the bed.

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