“When did they first push back against you — assert their own view, their own will?”

Why this question

Not defiance for the sake of it. The moment you saw their own sense of self beginning to form.

Capturing it in voice

• ·Record it on an ordinary day — the background noise of your kitchen is part of the keepsake.
• ·If they're old enough, hand them the phone and let them answer it themselves. Their phrasing is the treasure; don't tidy it.
• ·Don't script it. The ums, the tangents, the half-finished sentences — that's what their voice actually sounds like right now.

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