“What does independence look like for them this year?”

Why this question

What they're allowed now that they weren't last year. The negotiations. What you're still holding on to, for now.

Capturing it in voice

• ·Record it on an ordinary day — the background noise of your kitchen is part of the keepsake.
• ·If they're old enough, hand them the phone and let them answer it themselves. Their phrasing is the treasure; don't tidy it.
• ·Don't script it. The ums, the tangents, the half-finished sentences — that's what their voice actually sounds like right now.

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